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Crucial Conversations – Patterson, Grenny, McMillan and Switzler

Two graphics from the book which I found helpful:

CC model

Summary model

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10 Ways We Can Be Kinder To One Another

We live in a world that has so many good people who do amazing things for others. As we all know too well, we also live in a world of darkness and pure evil…Sometimes, it’s just overwhelming…By resolving to be kinder to one another, we can have a big impact…In much of society, we’ve extinguished the lights in how we go about our daily routines. You know the light I’m talking about: doing something kind for someone else or being supportive of someone who needs it or just being a friendly face in a dark crowd.

– Paul Jankowski

We can all be kinder to each other and bravo to Paul Jankowski for this lovely reminder of the practicalities of being a kinder species.

Full article here.

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Love stands in the middle

Our temptation is to stay on the outside.

To be Etic but not Emic. To attend endless conferences, read endless books, buy endless t-shirts. To dump cold water on our heads, take a selfie and hashtag it. To be about the latest ideas, like those on Mars Hill, to be waiting to see something new, like the newest post or picture online.

Ideas, when used this way, can be very self-indulgent. All the while, we remain outside the issue, and quite possibly, outside of our own story. But the great ideas – love, justice, intimacy, reconciliation – require something of us.

The people I see changing the world are doing it quietly.

– John Sowers

When I worked in Cairo, I was surrounded by good people with good intentions for the people living there. They had great ideas, great passion, but wha tmany of them couldn’t stand it seemed, was getting their hands dirty in order to see ideas and passions have an impact on people.

This article by John Sowers excellently sums up the situation we all face. If we want to have a tangible impact on the world we cannot ignore relationships. Relationships are the context in which the world can be changed for the better.

Sometimes the ideas we have aren’t actually that great or useful to the world. The positive impact on people’s lives is the measure and the test of a good idea.

To paraphrase an often quoted verse from the Bible, “If we do not have love, we are nothing but a loud noise”.

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SCS newsletter musing week 9

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
-Stephen R. Covey

I spent the last week at a professional development course which was really about one thing – truly listening to people. We discovered quite a lot about listening. Most challengingly was how much time and effort it takes to really listen to someone.

In the context of busy schools and busy families finding the time to really listen to people is hard. We often want to figure out what the problem is and fix it rather than hear about how a particular issue is impacting other people in our lives. We may be talking to someone but actually be mentally somewhere else.

A child may be sharing with us about something exciting they did during the day while we are perhaps thinking about that meeting we have coming up or what we need to pick up at the shops for dinner.

So this week I am encouraging us all to find the time to listen to each other. We have many valuable people in our lives. Let’s try and give them the gift of listening to them – their ideas, thoughts, feelings and struggles. This will take time and effort but truly listening to people is one of the most important things we can do.

After all, this is the ministry of Jesus isn’t it? As we read in Matt 11:28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

May God bless us all this week as we try to listen to all who are weary and burdened.

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